Like a puppet with strings. Or a dog with a leash. Could anyone imagine themselves being in that position? Well,hell yeah! But imagining it is painful enough. That's how far a relationship could lead to. Or shall I say commitment as it makes our balls shrink even more. When a decision is made and you know at some point you are not ready for such commitment, you will start to picture yourself as the puppet or the dog. Being all tied up, unwillingly. Controlled, attached and manipulated. And it has been that way for a very long period since the existence of time and space. But the funny part is more and more people are falling into this and believing that commitment is what they need. Although it's not their time yet. In other word, getting themselves into trouble. Getting tied up before they know they should be. Well, this may be a little perceptive to some who believe relationship could make us wiser and more mature and that's what grown ups do. But they keep proving themselves wrong. They got involve in a relationship and sure, they live a happy life for a moment and then comes the sucky part where plates start flying across the dining table, books thrown at each other and indeed that potrays the level of maturity a commitment would make out of you. And then they'll tell you that's just the ups and downs of a relationship. Couple fight and make out the next day. That's how it works. But is that reasonable?It dawned upon me that commitment is just something we define in our own world to conclude the feelings we have for our partner or our life. It is undeniably true with what they say about growing mature out of a commmitment. But it is also about being responsible over matters. I'm not saying that commitment is bad and no one should ever get themselves involved in one. I'm saying that commitment is too wide a definition to be taken so lightly.
Being committed means being responsible over someone or something, that clearly suggests the requirement of an adequate amount of faith, trust and understanding. Fair enough. If you want to be responsible over someone, you have to really know the person you are being responsible for. But in most cases I believe this never existed. How could we possibly be in love and responsible for someone we hardly know? Second name, favorite color, or food, her family background and her nicknames don't count if that's the whole definition of knowing someone. It's what lies inside that matters. Do we really know them personally? Can you tell me what her reaction would be if you tell her that you quit your job today?How she sees both of you in the next 30 yrs?Or how she would like her birthday to be celebrated. If you can tell me exactly the way she would respond, that in the name of commitment, is true relationship. That'll show how much you know a person. You both will share almost everything. Emotionally too. You understand and know exactly what she wants and so does she. And if you start finishing each other's sentences that means you have gone over board and probably watched too much of romantic comedies.
It all boils down to one simple conclusion and it's the time factor. Whether or not we are ready for such a huge change in your lives. Being committed isn't something you decide over night and isn't something you can easily undo using Ctrl+Z. If you have found that someone or that little ktten you know fits that lonely house of yours perfectly well, think of them as responsibility you have to fulfill and not as just an object to fill that emptiness in your life. The sanctity and value of each relationship depends on how far you are willing to take it to. Don't ever let it be 'strings' nor 'leash' between you as they shouldn't be that feeling of being caught up because you know you are not.
