my space

Have you given yourself that little room you know you need? Well I'm sure we will never admit that we need the space. But trust me,we all do. It doesn't matter if you're a guy or girl, married or single, young or old. Everyone needs it. We tend to hide the outcry of it. Ego I would say. That space can be found in many forms. Some chill for good coffee, some hangs out alone at park, while some grab good books or even crash a gig with some booze. It differs from one to another. How we pamper ourselves with pleasure. And of course, how we define pleasure itself. One can be very vulnerable when it comes to this. But it all boils down to one conclusion, and that is how we manage the space we have.
Communicate. Talk it over. Get over with it. Solved. It may sound a little too easy to say and type it out in a blog like this. But it's a lot more than that.The space is there to give us the time to understand certain things but what happens next will determine whether or not it works in solving the problem. Confused?Try this.
Imagine having problems you know only time could heal with your girlfriend. You took a time off, so did she. But if things aren't properly laid out over a dinner or lunch together, things will not change. You may have the peace of mind after going through the 'space' that you need. But that peaceful mind won't lead you nowhere if communication doesn't take place.
And now, let's assume communication did take place, and we call it solved as all the issues were laid out, talked over and done. Whether or not the relationship can start fresh all over again depends on the level of honesty we put in the conversation we just had. And it takes two to tango. I guess when they say honesty is the best policy,they really mean it and I couldn't agree more. And by communication I mean those that's exercised verbally, face to face. Not those I-think-I-know-what-she-meant-over-the-phone kinda thing. If you think you know what she really meant, trust me mate, you don't. We think girls are very good in mind-reading. Maybe. But not all the time. Girls think that guys read mind. No, we don't. Even if we do, 99% of the time we end up translating it into languages we don't understand ourselves. So the best way is to be frank and honest to each other. You like it,say it.No point of going around the bushes and waste more time. The whole idea of arguing or in some cases procrastinating is already wasting so much time.
Simple example of this similar case is when a guy wants to make his first move. His gesture is pretty much clear that he's attracted to the girl. The girl starts to notice it and may get the idea that he likes her. Days gone by, he goes out with her few times, trying to be the nicest guy ever lived, and yes, she gets the message but waiting for the guy to say it. But the guy thinks actions speak louder than words. So why bother saying it out. He simply let it be, which is exactly what I call time wasting.
So here is the point that proves my argument I made awhile ago. The girl thinks the guy likes her. A very good mind reader.No doubt. But she demanded for more. Actions. Waiting for the guy to spell it out in front of her.Did the guy actually understand that part? No he didn't. Why? Because he thought she gets the message. In this case, maybe she did get the message but the guy couldn't tell that she wants more out of it.This is the point where communication should have taken place.I'm not saying that the two stop talking to each other.But what I meant when I say communicate is to talk about issues they have in hand.They may be talking and seeing each other everyday but until he sits down and spell it out to her, about how he feels and thinks, relationship can never be built. Be the same person you are, do it with the strength you've got from the space you've given yourself earlier on.
You may end up having the perfect relationship you could ever asked for or in worst case, you might have misinterpreted her thoughts and actions all these while and ended up being rejected. And when this happens, go back to that little space of yours and start all over again. Shit happens in life but they make us wiser. Remember that everything happens for a reason and only time could tell.
Go find that little room of yours, not to weep, but to regain strength. I've found mine!

"As long as we can love each other, and
remember the feeling of love we had, we can die
without ever really going away. All the love you
created is still there. All the memories are still
there. You live on-in the hearts of everyone you
have touched and nurtured while you were here."
-Prof. Morrie Schwartz